{"id":1929,"date":"2020-02-07T16:24:52","date_gmt":"2020-02-07T16:24:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.scu.edu\/writeherewritenow\/?p=1929"},"modified":"2020-02-07T16:24:53","modified_gmt":"2020-02-07T16:24:53","slug":"a-valentine-with-your-self","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.scu.edu\/writeherewritenow\/2020\/02\/07\/a-valentine-with-your-self\/","title":{"rendered":"A Valentine with Your Self?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I went to visit my very ill friend in L.A. She is struggling with a terminal illness that will lead to its inevitable conclusion, but a few friends asked me eagerly afterward, the same question on their lips. \u201cWhat does she need?\u201d As I look at her in subsequent visits, I realize how easy it is for me to offer her what she needs the most\u2014compassion and non-violent communication, the kind of love in speech and actions that reminds her of her true self. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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What do you need? <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

I fly back and forth and I wonder if my friend\u2019s illness is a wake-up call. Do I show the same kind of tenderness towards my self? Do I practice love and non-violent communication when I talk to myself? I often ask of my dear ones these two questions: “How are you feeling?” “What do you need?” But I have a hard time remembering to do that for myself. Nevertheless, some of my happiest moments have been in those moments when I have felt the energy of loving-kindness flowing in and out of me like a free wind. \u00a0I wonder what it will take to apply compassion to myself as I do with others.\u00a0 How do we come to realize that love and non-violent communication needs to include ourselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Try This Meditation:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Breathe in and breathe out. Ask yourself. “How are you feeling?” Breathing in, breathing out, scan your body, mind, and heart. Openly and with sincerity offering love and self-compassion to yourself. “What do you need?” Moment by moment, keep a mind clear like the sky. Compassion for all beings includes your “self.” Moment by moment, trust your wisdom. Compassion and love for all beings include you. Just do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Juan <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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